Discussing politics with people who have opposing views can often become very heated and upsetting. These discussions almost never result in the opposing party changing their political opinion.
Even when we try to avoid political conversations with those who have a differing opinion, they often still come up. At times like this, it can be helpful to approach the conversation with curiosity rather than judgment. This might mean taking a deep breath and asking this person a question about their belief rather than trying to make a counterpoint.
Here are examples to help get you started:
- “I am curious; how has this issue personally affected you?”
- “Is there an experience you have had that led you to this belief?”
- “Are you open to hearing my thoughts about the issue, which may be different from yours?”
It can be hard to approach an opposing viewpoint with openness but it can help to create a calm environment for productive discussion. It can also help to find issues where you may agree. Friends, family and neighbors often want similar goals for our communities (e.g., safe neighborhoods, good schools, secure jobs) but may have different ideas as to how to achieve them. These conversations can help build respect and understanding.
Despite our best efforts, political conversations can still become heated. When this happens, it’s usually best to set a firm, but respectful boundary. You may say something like:
- “It sounds like we both have opinions and I respect yours. Can we agree to disagree?”
- “I appreciate hearing your perspective, but I would prefer to not discuss it further at this time.”
If you continue to struggle navigating different political opinions in relationships, reach out to CompEAP for 24/7 support:
- Online: My.CompEAP.com
- Phone: 800-344-1011
